Monday, March 27, 2006

First Date Impressions

First impressions are important make them count

Be on your best behavior

So you've agreed to go out on your first date. Maybe you met online on a dating site and decided to step to the next level. Make sure all your bases are covered before you go. If this is the first date and you've never met in person before make sure that you will be meeting in a public place. If it is at all possible plan to drive yourself to the date. At all costs don't drink too much alcohol!

Don't Arrive Late:
You have agreed on the time so don't be late. Being late sends a negative message, "My time is more valuable and the world revolves around me". Greet your date and let them know how pleased you are to meet them. Complement the way they look, "that dress looks fantastic on you".

Stop, Look, Listen, Listen, and then Listen some more:
You want to put your date at ease as soon as possible. Single people who have been single for a while and have not been really successful in dating tend to start talking and monopolize the conversation. Listening to a person can give you great insight into what kind of person they are.

Don't get too personal on the first date:
It's certainly fair to ask a person about themselves. In some cases you may have to get the conversation going if the other person seems shy. Just proceed with caution when the line of questioning begins. It's probably best to stay away from questions about past relationships and keep to safer questions:

  • What kind of things do you like to do for fun?

  • Are you from here originally?

  • Have you seen any good movies lately?

  • Would you say you're an amusement park or nature hiking person?



  • Stay Focused on your Date:
    Ladies this is where a lot of men fail the test. Men pay close attention to what we are about to say here. Don't let your eyes wander around the room as your date is spilling her heart out to you. This is a definite way to not get a second date. You've asked for her time and she generously agreed to share her time with you so don't waste her time. Spend the time with her and don't shop for a better model while your out.

    Ending the Date:
    If there is a mutual attraction don't forget to get her number and don't expect a kiss on the first date. If she likes you she will let you know whether it's a handshake or possibly a kiss that will end the date. In either case, thank each other for the evening and make sure to let them know that you enjoyed your time together. If there is no hope for a second date let them know graciously. "I really enjoyed meeting you and you are a very nice person. I enjoy meeting new people. I would like to stay in touch as I value you as a new friend. Thank you for this evening". Wish them well, if they persist don't lead them on let them know that you really enjoyed meeting them but you are not ready for a second date.

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    Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?

    Are you a nice guy?

    It goes back to our primal imprinting but Women want Guys with Ego.

    Nice has the word "ice" in it and that's how she's going to feel toward you if you come off all nice and squishy. That is the fastest way to become a "friend" instead of a lover. Nice guys listen up because what we are about to clue you in on might change your dating life forever.

    Nature is an amazing force. All the animals in nature look for the strongest and most attractive mate to breed with. This assures the survival of the species by breeding out the weakest genes. This is the way that it is supposed to work so we don't want to reinvent the wheel but we do want to take advantage of what nature predicts the way that the female will react.

    By nature single women will look for the best of the species to breed with. They are looking for potential mates that are attractive, refined, wealthy (or at least appear wealthy) and powerful.

  • Attractive - well in some cases we only have so much to work with here but being attractive in a single woman's eyes can encompass more that just looks or physical attributes. If you're not blessed with great looks you can improve your appearance to women by watching your weight and paying attention to the way you dress.



  • Refinement - this is a very important part of the dating single women equation. Women are drawn to people who show a bit of sophistication. Let's face it, if you were a woman and were presented with two single guys with the same appearance and one was a beer and chips person and the other was a wine and cheese expert which single do you think would win out? Refinement exudes sophistication which implies education and wealth or at least the potential for wealth.



  • Wealth - some of us are lucky enough to be born into it but most of us are just hard working schmoes. Wealth isn't something that is necessarily within the reach of most but the perception of wealth is. It's sometimes as simple as simple association. Rather than taking a date to a football game try taking her to a winery, for a round of golf, or to a polo match. In each case you don't have to live the lifestyle but it is absolutely imperative that you know something about the lifestyle that you are trying to exude. Don't take her to a polo match and expect her to swoon when you exclaim "touchdown".



  • Power - if you have it you can have your pick. If you don't have it you need to follow the above advice and try developing a friendship with someone who does. Just being a semi-regular at the golf club restaurant, or polo field where you are able to introduce your date to or be recognized by someone who "belongs" there will go a long way to validating your social position.


  • It is true that women want what they can't have. If they perceive you as something they can't have or something that would be really hard to get you will definitely win over the nice guy that you used to be.

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    Why Online Relationships Work

    You know someone who has met online

    Why are they still together?

    If you were to talk to your friends you would probably find someone you or your friends knows has had success meeting online or at a speed dating event. We all hear stories about the couple who met online in a chatroom and chatted for a few months or maybe a year or longer and finally met, fell in love and have been together ever since. Do you ever wonder why a relationship that developed online seems so strong?

    There is evidence that suggests that when people meet online tend to communicate with one another better. What have marriage counselors been trying to tell us for years about communicating with our spouses? It is true that communication or rather the lack thereof is the root of many failed romances. It only makes sense that online dating and chatroom romances that start as simple chat among singles establishes a good foundation in communication skills. A relationship based on good communication is more prone to success because those months of chat have built that undeniable thread that is necessary to tie us together at a level that seems to be missing in our busy lifestyles.

    In our busy society, relationships that we develop often suffer. Friendships tend to be shallow and superficial. We don't take the time to really learn about one another. Getting to know one another through communication builds a stronger bond between friends and potential lovers. That is why it is our position that having voice and video capabilities is very desirable in an online dating service. Text chat is important but being able to see and hear the other person before you say "yes" is paramount.

    When you have found that person that you think might be right for you and you're ready to take the next step and meet in person why not use our speed dating venues as a safe and public way to finally meet face to face. We have carefully selected all the features to allow the absolute safest means of meeting the love of your life. Won't you join us today?

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    Personality matching is a good draw but does it work?

    Get Your 28 1/2 Dimensions working for You!

    "Get your free personality profile for free" touts the behemoth of online dating and matchmaking. It's nothing more than fancy marketing spin. There is absolutely no proof that personality matching guarantees marriage bliss. Instead of allowing users to freely browse the thousands of profiles and send flirty one line greetings to prospective matches one online service does all the leg work and delivers a filtered list of potential suitors. In contrast to speed dating or video dating the later approach seems to take all the fun out of online relationship building.

    The personality profile matching approach was put to the test on a popular dating show where past contestants tried to find suitable females for their fellow bachelor. One of the matchmakers held a bikini beauty contest, another hosted a game where potential dates competed for a spot among the winners and still another tried the scientific personality profile matching approach.

    As the dating show unfolded and potential single women were eliminated by the willing bachelor. It may have gone unnoticed to most but the single female delivered by the "heavy hitting" online dating services' personality profile matching system was almost the first candidate to be refused a rose. After all the free advertising and the heavy spin that was placed on the scientific matching the only thing that spun was the personality matching system with its tail feathers on fire.

    There is no substitute for meeting someone and getting to know them on a level that face to face meetings and spending a lot of time learning about the other person provides. The primus that personality matching is more effective is absolutely untrue. If you are going to use an online dating site make sure you pick one that will allow you the ability to talk and possibly even see the other person before you say, "yes". Online video dating sites are few and far between but the internet dating scene dictates that level of sophistication. Some of the better services also offer speed dating events which provide a safe, fun and public way of meeting someone in person. Develop your online friendships and when you do decide to meet in person consider using a speed dating event to do so.

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